I've seen it happen over and over again; a guy is dealing with a woman and he is puzzled by her and for whatever reason he starts asking other people about her instead of confronting her directly. Most of these times he gets information that makes the situation worse and then he starts thinking, well why didn't that work?
Hmmm, let me see if I can help you out with that there, buddy. Ummm, It didn't work because whoever you asked did not know how that woman works...
For example you are dealing with a female and she is angry with you over something you either said or didn't say, something you did or didn't do, forgot to do or in some cases maybe you did something worse. Now you feel like you don't know what to do or say to her so you decide to get advice from a woman or a man about her and they say give her space or they say confront her, or they tell you to play some mind-game.
Let's pretend he decides to give her space and now she won't even blink in your direction.... Oh Noooo, what did you do??? It's what you didn't do... Maybe she is the kind of woman that you can't let things marinate so now she thinks and feels like you don't care and doesn't want to be bothered with you...
Let's pretend you keep calling her to confront her and you end up pushing her away. Oh gosh darn it why didn't that work... because she was the one who needed space.
Uh-oh you tried playing a mind game but she is smarter than you and seen it coming so now you don't have a chance.... Why didn't that work.... Simply because this approach did not match her inner workings.
The needs of every woman varies depending on the kind of woman she is. Women are unique and there are no two women in the world who have the same needs, wants, desires and so forth. With that stated I'd like to address the fact that there are men getting advice about the women they deal with from other women, men and people who may not even actual know the woman he is dealing with.
My big question there is how do they think that they are going to get advice that is fit for her or whatever situation they are facing when the people they are asking 90 percent of the time DON'T KNOW HER; keep in mind that good counselors always try to meet both parties in a situation before making judgement calls or helping their client assess the situation.
In any relationship the best way to deal with the person you are dealing with is to deal with that person and not the people who you know or think have a good rep with relationships because for all you know they have never dealt with the kind of person you are now dating. The best information you can get is from the source.... Assuming the source is not corrupt.
Good Luck
Hmmm, let me see if I can help you out with that there, buddy. Ummm, It didn't work because whoever you asked did not know how that woman works...
Let's pretend he decides to give her space and now she won't even blink in your direction.... Oh Noooo, what did you do??? It's what you didn't do... Maybe she is the kind of woman that you can't let things marinate so now she thinks and feels like you don't care and doesn't want to be bothered with you...
Let's pretend you keep calling her to confront her and you end up pushing her away. Oh gosh darn it why didn't that work... because she was the one who needed space.
Uh-oh you tried playing a mind game but she is smarter than you and seen it coming so now you don't have a chance.... Why didn't that work.... Simply because this approach did not match her inner workings.
The needs of every woman varies depending on the kind of woman she is. Women are unique and there are no two women in the world who have the same needs, wants, desires and so forth. With that stated I'd like to address the fact that there are men getting advice about the women they deal with from other women, men and people who may not even actual know the woman he is dealing with.
My big question there is how do they think that they are going to get advice that is fit for her or whatever situation they are facing when the people they are asking 90 percent of the time DON'T KNOW HER; keep in mind that good counselors always try to meet both parties in a situation before making judgement calls or helping their client assess the situation.
In any relationship the best way to deal with the person you are dealing with is to deal with that person and not the people who you know or think have a good rep with relationships because for all you know they have never dealt with the kind of person you are now dating. The best information you can get is from the source.... Assuming the source is not corrupt.
Good Luck
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