I know this does not sound like something most people would want to know how to do, but believe it or not many people deal with social interactions that they really want to avoid. I am the master of avoidance (not that I am proud of this but it has it's benefits =0) ) In short if you are at work or home and you want to avoid a problem with a person here's what you could try:
1) If at work and you don't want to engage in conversation try zoning them out.. Focus very hard on what you are doing so they feel ignored and then at the last minute be like, huh what'd you say, or I'm sorry were you talking to me... They usually respond with forget it, nothing or ask if you are busy... You say yes and then they walk away. Sometimes there are people who won't go away so easily and that's when you pretend engage. (What does that mean Sarah???) Well, basically when they are standing there talking, let them talk and ramble, don't ask questions or make comments, simply nod and mm-hmm but continue doing what you are doing and make no eye contact. They walk away. =0)It works like a charm.
2)At home and you have a complicated spouse, relative or house mate and you notice that you clash. They are picking arguments constantly or complaining about things you do like a nagging mother and it causes you to clash. You need to let them yell, fuss and carry own. When they are done simply say OK and walk away. If they say that's it say, yes and follow up with you're right, I'm wrong, it's whatever you say but you MUST, ABSOLUTELY must do this with a smile. They get so angry that they can't do anything but walk away because they realize that you are not engaging them. If the smiling makes them angrier and they get physical then it's not the place for either of you to be. Sometimes it's best to do the are you talking to me and constantly have them repeat their-self by pretending you don't understand them. They get mad and walk away. It works every time. (0=
These techniques are some sure fired ways to not be engaging and get left alone....Now that I've shared them they may not work so well for me...LOL
Have fun =0)
I'll post new ones soon.
1) If at work and you don't want to engage in conversation try zoning them out.. Focus very hard on what you are doing so they feel ignored and then at the last minute be like, huh what'd you say, or I'm sorry were you talking to me... They usually respond with forget it, nothing or ask if you are busy... You say yes and then they walk away. Sometimes there are people who won't go away so easily and that's when you pretend engage. (What does that mean Sarah???) Well, basically when they are standing there talking, let them talk and ramble, don't ask questions or make comments, simply nod and mm-hmm but continue doing what you are doing and make no eye contact. They walk away. =0)It works like a charm.
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| Kind of drastic, but it'll work. |
2)At home and you have a complicated spouse, relative or house mate and you notice that you clash. They are picking arguments constantly or complaining about things you do like a nagging mother and it causes you to clash. You need to let them yell, fuss and carry own. When they are done simply say OK and walk away. If they say that's it say, yes and follow up with you're right, I'm wrong, it's whatever you say but you MUST, ABSOLUTELY must do this with a smile. They get so angry that they can't do anything but walk away because they realize that you are not engaging them. If the smiling makes them angrier and they get physical then it's not the place for either of you to be. Sometimes it's best to do the are you talking to me and constantly have them repeat their-self by pretending you don't understand them. They get mad and walk away. It works every time. (0=
These techniques are some sure fired ways to not be engaging and get left alone....Now that I've shared them they may not work so well for me...LOL
Have fun =0)
I'll post new ones soon.
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