Narcissistic Personalities

NPD refers to Narcissistic Personality Disorder and there are so many people walking around with this disorder and don't even know it because they have not been diagnosed. Then they walk around engaging in everyday conversations and discussions giving everyone a headache because they can't see past their own self; yet they are engaging with YOU.

 

I want to point out that I do not like these personalities and I don't mean that clinically. If some one has been diagnosed and are addressing this personality quirk then I respect that.

 

I am talking about those people who just don't know and are arrogant to the fact that there may be something wrong with this behavior or that they seek so much attention. Narcissists are hard to relate to because ninety percent of the time it's all about them to them. They believe that everything is about them even when it's not.

 

They have this level of thinking that is so child like that it should be insulting to them and everyone around them. It's a phase most of us grow out of by seven. 

 

Granted the fact that most narcissists become narcissistic because they were ignored or neglected as a child or somewhere in life. They eventually develop a defense mechanism that allows them to ALWAYS think of them.

 

Even if you are telling them a story about you or someone who you know they immediately chime in with comments that give them the floor like "Oh yea well when I" or "For me" and  "What I would have done".

 

It's hilarious when you are in a class with them because they are the first ones who want to tell stories about them and even when the class has moved on they are back talking about theirself.

 

It's worse when you have a narcissistic instructor because they always have to make the class session about them, or find some way to tie in theirself into all their lessons, or they don't leave much room for class discussions because they want the floor.

 

Sometimes it's funny listening to two narcissistic personalities try to communicate with each other. It's like they are holding a detached and very unrelated conversation because they will continue to make comments about their own self and never, almost never respond to what the other is saying.

 

 

The best way I deal with them in a personal setting is to avoid them at all costs. If I can not avoid them then I let them talk as much as they like and the majority of the time I don't say much because I know that whatever I say is going to encourage them more to talk about them. Not to mention that I am not the person who seeks attention or approval from another for any reason so it's real easy for me to fade into the background especially when they are present.